I need to continue building my confidence in wearing a thong. For years I have worn a thong off and on. At some spas, a few quiet lakes and hot springs.
For a little bit of back story, my wife doesn’t exactly love me wearing a thong. However, this summer on a vacation with my wife and kids, I happened to have a great conversation with a group or people with my family while I wore a thong. It became apparent that the judgement is mostly in my head, given my wife hasn’t exactly helped. But she’s starting to come around with “meh, be happy” kind of attitude.
With that event, and a few others recently I have decided to increase my confidence with the goal of being able to wear a thong way more often then I currently do. Now I have worn a thong a few times at my local pool lap swimming. But up until this week I hadn’t in many months. It’s a small Alberta town pool, so not the most progressive. Don’t think that I saw another man in a thong and decided to join. I have seen a few woman in thongs, but never a man.
What are some good confidence building stories, opportunities or suggestions others have.
My GF is also not a huge fan but at this point has also adopted a “eh, whatever” attitude. We were at a beach just north of Barcelona and decided to have lunch at a chiringuito. She walked to a table wearing just a thong bottom and said “you coming?” So I did, wearing a smaller thong than hers. When a waiter did not show up for several minutes, she asked me to go up to the bar to grab menus. This entailed walking past several tables in the restaurant, which I did. We both spent the next hour having our lunch – both of us wearing only small thong bottoms – in an increasingly full (outdoor beach) restaurant, paid the bill, and walked past most of the now full tables on our way out to the beach showers.
Nobody batted an eye.
It was a huge confidence builder, probably for her as well. She probably did this to see if I would flinch.
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On the same trip, I made a day trip to Costa Brava with a small group of six other people. We walked a few miles, then stopped at a beach, where about half the women were in thongs and about a third were topless. I said screw it, took off my board shorts and went snorkeling in a Skinz M67. We then walked to a beach snack bar and then along the boardwalk to a rocky cove. I got a few double takes at the snack bar, but no comments since even more of the women were wearing thongs there. All told, I was out in just an M67 for maybe 4 hours swimming, walking, chatting with the other people in the group, jumping off some cliffs, etc. Even though I had been wearing thongs for several years previously, this really normalized it for me even back at my home beaches in New England. Nobody seems to care at this point. I make it a point to just do my thing and not be weird about it.
It definitely helps having a partner who supports you. My wife will often ask me if “Are you coming” when she heads to the water or for a stroll. On the rare occasion where the beach is packed but thongs aren’t the norm and I’m a bit apprehensive (Usually on east coast beaches in the Carolina’s) she gives me some encouragement. That’s great affirmation. She also always wants to know which suit I’m wearing and usually picks a smaller suit if I ask her which I should wear.
For me, building confidence is all about repetition. I am not a naturally confident person. There was a time when wearing swim briefs in public made me nervous. Each time I wore them to swim laps, in an environment where swim briefs were expected if not common, it got a little easier.
Some of my apprehension returned when I started wearing them for recreational activities, but it passed quickly. Now, I can’t imagine going back to shorts or even square-cut swimsuits. Swim briefs are the most conservative swimwear I own.
I wish I could say I’m as confident about wearing thongs, but I’m not. I still need to give myself a little push sometimes, and I revert back to swim briefs when I don’t feel comfortable in a thong or if they’re not allowed. That can feel like a failure, but I try not to think of it that way.
Everybody has a butt. I just think I look good in swimsuits that expose mine. Ultimately, I don’t think that causes harm to anyone. When I need a little push, I try to remind myself of that. It doesn’t always work, but every time I wear a thong, I feel a little more confident.
For me, a key to comfort is LAYERING! I almost always have a thong on underneath a more conservative swim brief and then lose the brief when and if I feel comfortable doing so.
Just go for it, see how you feel and how it goes. I recommend don’t go to any crowded beaches unless you know it’s accepted like Ft. Lauderdale, Hollywood Beach, or South Beach. I don’t even think about the apprehension but still get excited to walked the beach in my thong. People see you, just the way it is. A guy in a thong stands out. I just act normal and if get eye contact I’ll say Hi or the same back. I have not gotten any negative reactions, at least not to my face. Most of the apprehension is in your brain. Trust me I still get the feeling but I avoid any place crowded. People judge no matter what but for the most part people are at the beach to relax and seeing thongs at my beach is very common for women and men. I love walking the beach and I been told by local beach regulars that I have gained the reputation of the tanned-jacked-guy in a thong. Not my intention to show off, just enjoy getting sun in my favorite style swimsuit/underwear. Having someone with you can help too. My niece doesn’t thong but she is OK with it. I also have a lady-friend who loves to thong and we’ll walk the beach together. But if you can go solo that shows off a lot of confidence. 99.999% of the time, people will leave you alone.
I do this too. However, sometimes the brief is a lower rise than the thong and you can see the thong fabric coming out the back, which makes it look weird. Or you can see the thong right through the brief, which is another problem.
In some cases yes, it looks weird. Sometimes it looks fine. I think of wearing mesh shorts or beach pants. I would make sure to be covered appropriately in common residential areas.
Yeah, it definitely takes some coordinating. I try to make sure the thong is similar in color, rise, and width. While I think showing the thong out of the brief can be a cool and sexy look, it can also actually make the fact that you’re wearing a thong more noticeable than if you’re just wearing the thong.
