As some others have suggested in their posts, my confidence level is dependent upon two main factors:
Where am I? If it’s a beach where thongs are a nonissue, I have no boundaries. It’s not a lack of confidence that keeps me from wearing them anywhere I go as much as fear of consequence.
Who’s around? I’m definitely more apt to wear a thong if there are other guys in minimal swimwear and if it’s an adults only crowd. It’s more about not getting accosted by anyone (which happened to me once in Cancun by some drunken college guys) than about personal modesty.
If I hesitate, this is usually the reason why. I hate confrontation and actively avoid it. The last thing I want when I’m at the pool or beach is a conflict with a stranger while I’m trying to relax or swim. As long as they keep their thoughts to themselves, I don’t really care what other people think about my attire.
I’d echo Christian. People may talk or snicker, but there may also be others that are thinking “man, I wish I could wear a thong”. Be confident with who you are, live your life, and be kind.
I love to wear thongs at the beach but it varies from place to place in quiet secluded beaches,no problem and the same when it’s packed, if there’s lots of female thong wearers I don’t have an issue and boldly get my thong on
Reading these positive experiences is very encouraging. I grew up in so cal, where baggy trunks are the only suits guys wear, unless you are on the swim team.
But after wearing a thong by the pool most of last summer, I’m ready to take the plunge and wear one on the beach. I assumed I’d try it on my first, but I like hearing that many feel more confident when accompanied by their wives.
While my wife embraces (or tolerates) my new style of swimwear, time will tell if she joins me on the beach or not. Thank you again for sharing your positive experiences.
Number 1 for me. If they are legal I’m full go. If you don’t like it and want to accost me, go ahead. You have no grounds. If there is some question to the legality or interpretation of law, I’ll shy to the quieter part of the beach. Last thing I need is some drunk dad from outside of Raleigh who’s visiting Hilton Head with his family to harass me because he’s not comfortable with the idea of being around someone he thinks might be gay and call the police. While a female would never be bothered on this beach I’d be left to the decision of the local police, but like I said above, having a female (in my case my wife) with you will usually keep people at bay.
I have never worried about it. Being a feminine sort of guy, with a nice body, it has always seemed perfectly natural to wear a thong, or preferably a g-string. I don’t look for trouble and very seldom get it—and then never in a physical way. Perhaps I’m just lucky.
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Love Crystal Cove, but don’t get up that way much, as I really like the beaches in Laguna, as I’m next door in Dana Point. Holler when headed down, and I’ll join you!
On one beach I heard a 35 year old women say “Oh, Jesus” as she was about to step off the boardwalk onto the sand (I was about 30 feet away with my wife). She then proceeded to turn and head the other direction.
At the same beach, a slightly older couple set down their stuff about 10 feet away and after 20 minutes or so, I heard the wife say to the husband “I’m not feeling it”.
While I am assuming both of these comments were directed at me….they do mess with your confidence a bit.
Hang in there. I still have days where that kind of response will get to me (and probably always will) but at the end of the day I always come back to the same point
why is it ok for females to wear skimpy swimwear but not males
I should be able to, and do, wear a thong or g string but do try & go to quiet sections of the beach away from families with children (ironically families will still set up near me sometimes without incident)
I just ignore the snide remarks or laughs & mostly ignore the sneaky pics (although yesterday’s drone circling around was not only dangerous & illegal but totally craz but ultimately it was a public beach & no one cares to do anything about it as a result). Mostly people are either walking away or, if they are close by, they get bored pretty quickly these days. No doubt they have a laugh with friends later but so what. They’re gone & ultimately it says more about their hypocritical intolerance & lack of respect than anything else
I was out twice last week at my local beach so I could bring my dog before the beach is closed to dogs for the summer. I was wearing a black Skinz M67 both days and I gotta admit I was nervous the first day since I was only 20 feet away from two 20-something girls (one in a small thong, one not) and a 20-something guy in boardies and all-over tattoos. Maybe it was having a friendly dog with me, but it was no issue at all – we chatted, they played with my dog.
When I took my dog to swim, there were (separately) two other women (also in small thongs) who each gave me (or my dog?) friendly smiles.
During this Barcelona trip, I’d say confidence level is up to about “95%, no issues wearing them in any beach situation”. With luck this will remain mostly true when I’m back home this weekend.