This is probably a bit of a long story but I want to give you my reasons for my swim thongs choices and ask your opinion.
I’ve recently ordered
Olaf Benz BLU2452 Sun String - Ocean
Olaf Benz BLU2553 Sun String - Tropical
Olaf Benz BLU2450 Sun String - Leaves
I have a black Joe Snyder I bought a couple of years ago and never wore in public. I took it on holiday to Fuerteventura but everyone was naked on the beach so it felt like over dressing! I thought about wearing it at the hotel pool but I prefer the beach and honestly not sure I had the courage at the time.
That was a short break with just my wife. She’s reticent about taking my daughter(9) to that beach even though she understands that studies believe naturism has body positive effects in later life if kids aren’t closed off from it. She’s considering going back as a family though as during kids school holidays we understand there’s an increased degree on textiles.
Recently there’s been a heatwave at home, my daughter wanted to play with a water slide in the garden, my wife put on a bikini (my daughter is used to seeing her in thongs getting changed) so I thought I’m going to get my black thong on. Neither of them cared, well, my wife liked it, my daughter only wanted us to slide!
Now I’m thinking that went really well, we all had fun, I want to go on family holiday back to Fuerteventura and if we must go to less naturist focused beaches then I want to wear a thong.
I would definitely be (irrationally) nervous about wearing one so I chose these patterns based on my feeling (and some research on danger colours in natured) when someone observes these they:
Don’t scream ‘Look at me in my thong’, like neon?
Not overtly sexual like tear drop g-strings (which I don’t hate BTW)
Light hearted. Not taking yourself too seriously about wearing a thong? Casual? Plain dark colours seem serious?
At the same time subtle in particularly the Ocean one?
I suppose, basically, I’m looking to not give of signals, only that I’m just a family guy that’s here to chill and play with family and no one else. I just like wearing that thong for comfort.
Would love you hear what you think. What would you consider for such a holiday/vacation?
You’re a dude in a thong … most everywhere you wear a thong it’s going to scream “look at me.” Embrace it … Life is too short to not wear all the thongs in all the colors! … my current favorite is a neon yellow bulge Joe Snyder and my custom Skinzwear M55.
I’ll add … as a straight white dude who usually thongs with my wife. The vibe is pretty clear. I’ve never drawn unwanted attention to myself when my wife was around. I’ve actually only drawn positive attention from people who think it’s great and they usually start by telling her, not me.
As a guy who wears thongs at the beach, you’re going to stand-out. Let’s face it, it’s not that common, though it’s common to those that are used to it. I been wearing a thong to the beach for 3 years now. It’s still rare to see a guy out in one. For those in a relationship I can see how helps with confidence. Two people out there enjoying small swimwear. However, be confident, act normal, I haven’t had a negative encounter. I have had people stop and talk to me about my tan, my physique, just to break the ice they are talking to a dude in a thong. I think a guy in a g-string stands out more, but hey if you are confident to wear something that small, keep it going.
The signaling is in your head. If it’s a speedo four inch side thong, or a tiny push out g string in bright pink with tie sides, it won’t make that much of a difference. What will make a difference is HOW you’re behaving.
“Oh dear, look at that guy!”
“Which one?”
“The one with the thong!”
“Oh, I see. So?”
“Kinda cheeky, don’t you think?”
“Is it? He’s just laying there”
“Oh, look, he’s getting up!”
“Oh Henry, he can’t go for a swim? It’s kinda empowering, don’t you think? To hell with what people think!”
Patterns, colors, and styles do have a significant impact on how I perceive myself. If I look in the mirror and a color doesn’t suit me, a pattern is too silly for my taste, or a style doesn’t fit quite right, I’m much less confident about wearing that swimsuit in public.
As others have said, most people won’t notice much beyond the fact that you’re wearing a thong, if they notice at all. People are usually paying a lot less attention than we think (which is simultaneously freeing and depressing).
If that’s what’s going through your head, I think the Olaf Benz thongs you ordered are an excellent choice. They provide ample coverage, and the colors and patterns are classy and subdued. I have all of the thongs you listed, and they’re among my favorites.
Welcome to the community, @HappyThong. Be sure to come back and let us know how it goes.
For myself, color is a very important thing. The brighter the color the happier I am, and the more confident I am. I like bright bold colors. I’ve found that the brighter the color the more compliments I get.
As for style, I tend to only purchase pouch enhanced styles. It not because I want to show off. I find I need the space for comfort and a better fit.
