I’m a married man, happily married in fact. It’s just that my wife, who’s always been jealous and suspicious, doesn’t share my joy of thongs. In fact, I often feel belittled by her nonverbal responses. Not that it deters my passion but it can dampen the fun. Sometimes it feels like that’s the objective.
I’m fit, but no spring chicken. Maybe she’s embarrassed? Of course, I not really looking to impress anyone. I’m just looking to live in the most present way possible.
Am I off base here, making someone I care for feel this way?
I doubt my wife will ever wear a thong swimsuit in a public setting. Nevertheless, she respects my preferences and, although she finds my enthusiasm for thongs a bit odd, has no objections to people wearing them.
Unfortunately, society at large isn’t as accepting, and her feelings are influenced by how others might react to me wearing a thong swimsuit. She has very occasionally asked me to wear something else, but can for the most part put aside her own qualms.
My wife doesn’t really care for them either. It would be nice if she did, but everyone has their preference. I decided to wear thongs for ME because of how they make ME feel. Maybe your wife needs some time to warm up to the idea. Just wear them with confidence. Enjoy the rush they give you. Act like it’s just another pair of swimwear when she is around. Wearing thongs has become a passion of mine. My wife doesn’t understand, and I’m not trying to explain it to her. I’m doing what I enjoy and pursuing this for myself. Best of luck to you and hopefully your wife comes around.
My current partner is okay with me wearing thongs. I was wearing thongs when we met, so it was no really surprise after the first encounter. She doesn’t wear thongs as a general rule, unfortunately. I wish she would, but she has body image issues she says. She does think I have too many thongs and doesn’t really understand my predilection for new thongs. But, she does enjoy seeing me wearing a thong.
She will not go to the beach with me. It’s not because I wear a thongs swimsuit. It’s because she doesn’t like the beach or the water. Fortunately she is not a jealous person and we have a semi open relationship. She doesn’t mind that I hang out with other women. That’s good because the vast majority of my friends are women. We travel together and separately. She knows I will travel to warmer climates in the winter and be on the beach most of the day. She tells me to go and have fun.
I am fortunate to have an understanding partner. It does take having open and honest conversations. We allow each other personal freedom while maintaining a commitment to each other.
Respectfully … from experience and a failed marriage, if your wife has always been “jealous and suspicious” you have bigger issues than wearing a thong.
My wife doesn’t mind at all. She’s not a super fan but she’s very supportive of whatever I like to do. She also wears thong bikinis and underwear so that makes it a lot easier. I hope some day she will really embrace it and even suggest certain ones for me to wear. For now, I’m just glad she is ok with it and wears her own thong bikinis next to me.
Wife doesn’t really like me in thongs, but with us being together for 18 years, she tolerates them. but certainly brings down the fun level with her worrying about others and “being embarrassed for me”.
Jealous of the guys who have wives that encourage it. I would do it a hell if a lot more of that was the case.
have another post in the building confidence, and the night me and her were going out in November was the first time I’d ever heard her say she liked me in a thong.
Appreciate the comment, and you are not incorrect. Also, your comments not something I hadn’t considered (dbl dbl neg ). This really came up for me as I grew older - say mid 40’s well after we were married. That’s not to say I wasn’t put off. Her attitude both offended me and shook our trust. Forcing a years long reconciliation
I feel I understand HER issues, I’ve considered the complete person, and made my decision. So I try to respect her sensitivities and not push the edges too hard. Sometimes, my desire - and the beauty of the place I live, inspires me to venture out. In those cases, I don’t hide my escapades but I don’t broadcast them either.
I have drawers of skimpy suits, if we go out on the boat I wear one under shorts and bust out when we get somewhat remote. It’s funny, she wears thongs all the time. Not so much with family or friends but at the beach, in the boat, around our pool at home; she’ll even be topless by our pool or go nude in our pool spa.
She just seems to be of the opinion that thongs aren’t good on men, that is unless you’re stuffing money in the crotch of a six pack stud. She fits the stereotype, her expression and lack of support speak volumes - “her kinda man” is more masculine”.
Frankly, I Be who I Be. She Be who She Be.
Love. Marriage. Kids.
So I Work the Problem vs let it Work Me. But make no mistake, I may Love Her but that’s even more reason to hold a firm stand on any signs of bigotry. Hence my continuing and her growing. I know she wouldn’t want to be like this but we all have blind spots.
). This really came up for me as I grew older - say mid 40’s well after we were married. That’s not to say I wasn’t put off. Her attitude both offended me and shook our trust. Forcing a years long reconciliation