I’m a married man, happily married in fact. It’s just that my wife, who’s always been jealous and suspicious, doesn’t share my joy of thongs. In fact, I often feel belittled by her nonverbal responses. Not that it deters my passion but it can dampen the fun. Sometimes it feels like that’s the objective.
I’m fit, but no spring chicken. Maybe she’s embarrassed? Of course, I not really looking to impress anyone. I’m just looking to live in the most present way possible.
Am I off base here, making someone I care for feel this way?
I doubt my wife will ever wear a thong swimsuit in a public setting. Nevertheless, she respects my preferences and, although she finds my enthusiasm for thongs a bit odd, has no objections to people wearing them.
Unfortunately, society at large isn’t as accepting, and her feelings are influenced by how others might react to me wearing a thong swimsuit. She has very occasionally asked me to wear something else, but can for the most part put aside her own qualms.
My wife doesn’t really care for them either. It would be nice if she did, but everyone has their preference. I decided to wear thongs for ME because of how they make ME feel. Maybe your wife needs some time to warm up to the idea. Just wear them with confidence. Enjoy the rush they give you. Act like it’s just another pair of swimwear when she is around. Wearing thongs has become a passion of mine. My wife doesn’t understand, and I’m not trying to explain it to her. I’m doing what I enjoy and pursuing this for myself. Best of luck to you and hopefully your wife comes around.
My current partner is okay with me wearing thongs. I was wearing thongs when we met, so it was no really surprise after the first encounter. She doesn’t wear thongs as a general rule, unfortunately. I wish she would, but she has body image issues she says. She does think I have too many thongs and doesn’t really understand my predilection for new thongs. But, she does enjoy seeing me wearing a thong.
She will not go to the beach with me. It’s not because I wear a thongs swimsuit. It’s because she doesn’t like the beach or the water. Fortunately she is not a jealous person and we have a semi open relationship. She doesn’t mind that I hang out with other women. That’s good because the vast majority of my friends are women. We travel together and separately. She knows I will travel to warmer climates in the winter and be on the beach most of the day. She tells me to go and have fun.
I am fortunate to have an understanding partner. It does take having open and honest conversations. We allow each other personal freedom while maintaining a commitment to each other.
Respectfully … from experience and a failed marriage, if your wife has always been “jealous and suspicious” you have bigger issues than wearing a thong.
My wife doesn’t mind at all. She’s not a super fan but she’s very supportive of whatever I like to do. She also wears thong bikinis and underwear so that makes it a lot easier. I hope some day she will really embrace it and even suggest certain ones for me to wear. For now, I’m just glad she is ok with it and wears her own thong bikinis next to me.
Wife doesn’t really like me in thongs, but with us being together for 18 years, she tolerates them. but certainly brings down the fun level with her worrying about others and “being embarrassed for me”.
Jealous of the guys who have wives that encourage it. I would do it a hell if a lot more of that was the case.
have another post in the building confidence, and the night me and her were going out in November was the first time I’d ever heard her say she liked me in a thong.
Appreciate the comment, and you are not incorrect. Also, your comments not something I hadn’t considered (dbl dbl neg ). This really came up for me as I grew older - say mid 40’s well after we were married. That’s not to say I wasn’t put off. Her attitude both offended me and shook our trust. Forcing a years long reconciliation
I feel I understand HER issues, I’ve considered the complete person, and made my decision. So I try to respect her sensitivities and not push the edges too hard. Sometimes, my desire - and the beauty of the place I live, inspires me to venture out. In those cases, I don’t hide my escapades but I don’t broadcast them either.
I have drawers of skimpy suits, if we go out on the boat I wear one under shorts and bust out when we get somewhat remote. It’s funny, she wears thongs all the time. Not so much with family or friends but at the beach, in the boat, around our pool at home; she’ll even be topless by our pool or go nude in our pool spa.
She just seems to be of the opinion that thongs aren’t good on men, that is unless you’re stuffing money in the crotch of a six pack stud. She fits the stereotype, her expression and lack of support speak volumes - “her kinda man” is more masculine”.
Frankly, I Be who I Be. She Be who She Be.
Love. Marriage. Kids.
So I Work the Problem vs let it Work Me. But make no mistake, I may Love Her but that’s even more reason to hold a firm stand on any signs of bigotry. Hence my continuing and her growing. I know she wouldn’t want to be like this but we all have blind spots.
Hi. I’m in exactly the same situation. I’ve been wearing thong underwear for ages, thong swimwear when working in the garden (even that now gets commented by my better half as showing off in front of the neighbours, despite neighbours not caring less about me wearing thongs - pretty sure they seen me more than once), but going to the beach in thongs is out of the table. Not sure that she has issues with me or herself, but I keep telling her I don’t care what people think and that they look (have been wearing skimpiest possible bikini I could find on Aliexpress short of actual thongs). I think it may have something to do with her not being confident enough to wear anything more revealing after pregnancies, despite me supporting her as much as possible, giving confidence and repeating that she looks beautiful (to me, she is the most beautiful woman in the world). And there is also that thing - what will other say. It occurs to me that women of certain age give more weight to what other say and want than what their husband wants and likes. Sometimes I think I see jealousy in eyes of good husbands strolling down the beach with their wives, in 3/4 dork shorts (maybe wishing they could drop them and wear something less heavy, less restricting) while his wife (opinion creator) gives me a bad looks, talks to her husband and points finger at me…all while I enjoy the sun, sand and water with my kids, me wearing swimwear with hardly any coverage at the back but still too much for my liking. To close this rant down, speak to your wife about your passion and what you want to wear if you care for her, but also wear what you like and makes you feel good (even sexy) if you care for yourself.
Absolutely. I know many women who support me wearing thongs. We have candid conversations about people’s perception of what swimwear people (especially men) should wear in public. Most are in committed relationships. Because they support my desire to wear thongs and g-strings, I trust their opinions. I ask questions about styles, coverage, shaving, etc. All of them are 100% supportive. Because of this, I have gained immense courage in wearing thongs and g-strings, where legal, in the past couple of years.
I was recently in Florida and wore the most minimal g-string all of the days. In the past I hesitated until I was away from everyone and I waited until the last couple of days before gaining the courage. On this past trip, I wore several styles of minimal coverage suits the first moment I arrived. I was unapologetic and not afraid to go anywhere on the beach whatsoever. It was exhilarating to be so comfortable in public.
I know for a fact, if I had a pool and/or hot tub in my backyard, these women and their SO’s would join me on a weekly basis. What I don’t know is if they would choose to wear a thong or g-string in the presence of others. Now that I think about, I am going to ask my friends what they would choose to wear in such a situation. I know for a fact one would go nude if everyone else did.
In summary, all of these women get excited when the conversation of thongs and g-strings on men comes up. I think they think it is a breath of fresh air when they find out they know someone who actually wears thongs and g-strings. They ask ALOT of questions after they find out. During the conversations, I always ask if they or their SO’s ever considered wearing thong and g-string swimwear in public. The answer is always no. I am certainly not saying I need new friends. However, I am also looking for that elusive female who shares the same passion as me. Someone who unapologetically wears minimal swimwear in public.
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It’s interesting and helpful to read about other’s experiences. I didn’t realize how common it seems to be that there are many married men who enjoy thongs while their wives don’t share the same thinking. My wife now doesn’t mind as much that I wear them as underwear and if it’s just the 2 of us at a beach on vacation she also doesn’t care. For her it’s about her own longstanding body image confidence - lack thereof of course. But getting to the point we’re at now had to overcome confusion, jealousy, and suspicion. So that took communication. She understands now. And enjoys seeing me in them…just doesn’t want ANYONE else seeing.
As for guys in general, nowadays even more so, I just can’t get over how ridiculously odd it is at the beach that most women are in bikinis and often thongs while guys remain in baggy, saggy shorts. The US is weird like this. At least wear briefs! Oy…
At the risk of being a wet pair of boardies, I question the idea of “passion” for wearing thongs. I mean, they’re super comfortable and very much the right tool for the job and it’s still pretty transgressive for men to wear thongs at the beach, but at the end of the day, it’s just a swimsuit. I personally just want to see the normalization of swimsuits that aren’t huge soggy board shorts.
I wonder if women who wear thongs feel the same way? My GF wears thongs to the beach because it’s just… a swimsuit.
I have found that wearing a thong to the beach has been a great way to meet people. I have a few women friends that started talking with me specifically because they saw me confidently wearing a thong. It started with them telling me how much they liked my swimsuit nd they said it was nice to see a man confident enough to wear what I was wearing. That has lead to long discussions about swimwear and choices. I have heard more than a few times how much they wish more men would wear more reveling swimsuits. They tell that they just don’t understand why anyone would want to wear those baggy shorts that do not help men look good.
Now I have extensive conversations about how certain suit make people look better and what styles help people make better impressions. I get texted photos of bikinis that my women friends are thinking of buying. They ask for my input. In return I text photos of things that I am considering. On beach days I will often be asked to wear certain thongs. Sometimes it is that they want me to wear the “skimpiest” thong or most revealing thong I own. Other times it is a request to wear a thong that matches their bikinis. And sometimes it is a request to wear a theme thong (4th of July, Cherry Festival, etc.).
We all wear thongs because it is our preference for swimwear. I have personally found that women who wear thong bikinis are more accepting of men in minimal swimwear. They actually encourage men to wear more revealing swimwear.
I can relate to parts of what you’re feeling, though my experience has unfolded a bit differently over time.
Looking back, I think my interest in thongs started pretty early. I still remember seeing Linda Kozlowski in Crocodile Dundee that was probably the moment the seed got planted. Over the years, that curiosity evolved gradually, from standard briefs to bikini cuts, then string briefs, and eventually transitioning fully into thongs after college.
What’s interesting is that my wife’s journey went in almost the opposite direction at first. She came from a pretty conservative, modest background, and early on there was some hesitation even something as simple as buying her first thong felt like a big step. But over time, that shifted. By college, she was saying she couldn’t imagine wearing anything else, and even on our honeymoon she was confidently wearing thongs at the beach.
For me, the bigger hurdle wasn’t underwear, it was being seen. It took me until my mid-30s to feel comfortable even wearing shorter, fitted swim shorts in public. Ironically, it was my kids who pushed me there. And once I got past that mental barrier, it was incredibly freeing. The reaction I expected never really came instead, it was mostly neutral or even positive, and over time you start to realize how much of the hesitation is internal.
More recently, I’ve become comfortable wearing thong swimwear more openly, even outside the house. That step came with encouragement from my wife and daughters, which made a huge difference. What I’ve found is that confidence tends to shape how people respond. When you’re relaxed and comfortable, others tend to mirror that.
That said, I think your situation brings up something important: this isn’t just about clothing it’s about how your partner feels and how you navigate that together.
You’re not off base for wanting to express yourself or feel present and free in your own skin. But at the same time, if your partner is feeling discomfort, embarrassment, or insecurity, that’s real too. The goal probably isn’t to “win” the preference, but to understand what’s underneath her reaction.
Is it about modesty? Social perception? Feeling exposed by association? Or something deeper like feeling unheard or dismissed?
From my experience, the difference-maker wasn’t pushing boundaries it was creating space for comfort to grow over time, without pressure.
As for coping, I’d say:
Stay grounded in why it matters to you (freedom, comfort, self-expression)
Stay curious about why it matters to her (without getting defensive)
Look for middle ground or context (when/where it feels okay vs not)
Let confidence come from within, not from validation
And on support having a partner who eventually embraced and even encouraged my comfort made a huge difference. But that didn’t happen overnight it evolved.
At the end of the day, I don’t think it’s about thongs. It’s about alignment, respect, and whether both people feel seen.
Curious how others have navigated that balance too.
). This really came up for me as I grew older - say mid 40’s well after we were married. That’s not to say I wasn’t put off. Her attitude both offended me and shook our trust. Forcing a years long reconciliation
kind, stay positive +, be thankful 
, and you will be blessed with a rich and wonderful life. Go out there and wander, the world has a lot to offer. The world is your oyster. Carpe diem.