My wife and I are heading to Miami in 23 days to celebrate our 30th anniversary, and I’ve decided to finally wear thong swimwear in public for the first time. South Beach and the Moxy Hotel pool are on the agenda, and I’m fully committed — but also a little nervous.
I know South Beach is probably the best place in the US to do this, but I’d love to hear from people who’ve been there or made a similar leap for the first time.
A few things I’m wondering about:
How did you handle the nerves the first time?
Any tips on confidence at the pool vs. the beach
This feels like the right trip to go for it. Thirty years together is worth stepping outside the comfort zone a little. Would love any advice from people who’ve been there.
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South Beach was the first place I wore a thong to the beach. And yes it is nerve wracking at first but in your situation, having your wife along should help.
I’d recommend starting at the beach first, rent a set of chaise lounges near the water and then just pull the band aid off (undress) and go for it. I’d encourage you to find a set of chairs near other people wearing skimpy swim wear and don’t hide yourself all the way in the back row of chairs like I did.
After you get hot , go in for a dip and then repeat.
Once comfortable at the beach, you can then try the same process at the pool. Pools are typically more confined and will test your confidence and nerves a bit more - but you will get there.
Lastly, try and avoid setting up near kids when possible.
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The last time I was at South Beach was before I started wearing thongs, but 75% of women were wearing them and half the women were topless as well. This is the perfect place to just go for it.
Find a place on the beach that’s near similarly dressed women, set yourself up, then go about your routine exactly as if you’re wearing your previous swimsuits. Once lightning doesn’t strike you and nobody laughs and makes fun of you (the fear of this is real!), you’ll realize it’s fine.
A pool is more confined. That may take a few days at the beach first.
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I have to agree with what’s already been written. Rent a chase lounge for the day next to the water line, away from family’s with children, and near others wearing skimpier swimwear. Then get yourself set up, take a breath and strip down to your thong. Maybe sit on your butt for the first half hour and watch the parade of women in thongs pass you by, watch the few men in bikini style briefs pass by. Then flip over and sun your buns for a while. By now you will be hot enough to consider jumping in the water. Go for it. You might even get a few compliments.
I agree the pool might take a bit more courage. But after a day or two on the sand, the pool will be not as big of a deal as in may feel now.
South Beach is the place to take the plunge into the thong wearing universe. No one will really care that you are wearing a thong. Everyone on the beach expects to see minimal swimwear being worn. The biggest thing is to not let yourself talk yourself out of it. Be bold, you’ll be happier for it.
South Beach was one of my first experiences in a thong on a beach. Back then I almost talked myself out of it. I’m glad I didn’t. It did build my confidence back then to see that it wasn’t a big deal and I even had a few women say some very nice things to me.
In general I encourage you to take the opportunity to wear a thong on South Beach. Enjoy your day, then repeat it the next day.
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You’ll be fine with south beach, women in thongs everywhere, some guys too. Wear sunglasses and don’t look at people looking at you. Act like you’re the only one out there. You’re going to get noticed regardless but just have confidence and go for it. Walk to the water and back to the beach chair a few times. Once you get past those nerves try going for a walk. Having your wife with you helps too. Let us know how it went and what part of the beach you setup. I know around 15th ST, you’ll see more men in thongs.
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My wife and I went about 1.5 years ago. We stayed at The Plymouth on 21st St and spent most of our time at the beach right there. Both in thongs the whole time, at the hotel pool and beach. She even wore a subtley sheer WW bikini on the beach too. We went for walks, sometimes several blocks down the beach and back. Surely caught a few glances, had some positive comments, even had one guy stop and ask to take our picture together. A very positive experience for sure. We are mid 40s, and I’m rocking the “dad-bod” for sure, so I definitely was not the most fit guy on the beach either!
How to handle the nerves? Just go for it! 5 minutes after you’ve committed you’ll realize that no one really cares.
Even at the pool, being a much more “initimate” setting, we made conversation with other people, all very positive. Went to the pool bar in thongs too, again no issue at all.
You aren’t going to the beach or pool to impress those other people, nor do you owe them anything. They are responsible for their own joy, not you at all. If your swimwear choice bothers somebody, that’s the very definition of “their problem” - not yours!
Honestly, if you’ve been together for 30 years and you’re still out with your spouse getting your cheeks tan and enjoying your anniversary the only thing anyone should say is “Congratulations!” These days anyone making it 30 years together is obviously doing several things right, maybe one of those things is thonging together. Maybe marriage counselors should start suggesting it to couples with problems!
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I haven’t been back to South Beach in 20 years. I would like to visit again soon. I want to swim laps in a thong at Flamingo Park or other location that has a lap pool.
I have to say, all the above comments are dead accurate! I went to South Beach last year right about this time and wore thongs for the first time in public and for the first time in my life as well. I look back and am amazed I pulled the confidence together to do it. I love it, the tan always looks great. The feel of sunshine on the buns is great. I eventually got up to walk around and caught one group of ladies snapping pics after they walked by. I just gave a lil smirk and kept on walking. Nobody said anything that I heard and really, so what if they did.
I have no experience at a more intimate hotel pool but I imagine it’s similar situation, especially in South Beach.
I’m hoping to break away from work and like next week to go again before we get super busy during the summer. I almost went last week but boss man said no but now that I’m ask caught up, fingers crossed.
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I’ll be in South beach with some friends the same time as you for about a week! Maybe we might run into each other! I picked up some Grand Axis thongs and some others!
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Visiting South Beach is on my list to visit. I hope to wear a the-bikini mesh tear drop g-string or a custom made Skinz thong In a Super Thin Skinz fabric. I would also prefer to not go alone, but I will if I can’t find a like-minded woman to join me.
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