This started as something I wrote for myself and then shared with my wife. She encouraged me to post it here.
As a man, I am expected to conform to this image of ‘manliness’ that has been pushed on us from birth. I’ll just say it: I WEAR THONGS! No, I am not gay or bisexual or anything like that. No, I don’t think thongs define me as a person either. For me, it’s no different than my love for woodworking, guns, or engineering. It gives me a reason to improve myself, to be that person I let fade, which brought me down emotionally in life. I haven’t always had a person in my life who was 110% supportive of my thongs. Now that I have that, I wish I could have had it sooner in my life. I will never say I regret the path I walked to this point, because that would mean I wouldn’t have my kids. I just wish I could have had both from the start. Maybe God chose this path for me so I would appreciate it more now that I have it. Thongs give me a reason to be healthy, a reason to feel good about myself, a reason to be happy to be me, a reason to have confidence in myself, a reason to feel unique, a reason to be desirable… nothing in my life does that for me. Being asked if I was gay because of my choice, my desire to wear thongs, by women I have been intimate with, women I have shared my life with, has made me question and bury the thing that makes me feel alive. I have guarded that part of myself and hid it from others in fear that I’ll be ridiculed, attacked, and humiliated for being different. All because I am different from what society has deemed appropriate, deemed ‘manly.’ Now that I have someone who supports that part of me, encourages that part of me, I am sad I wasted years fighting the person that’s been hidden away for so long. But now, I’m finally living my life again. No more hiding.
I like this. I regret not embracing thongs earlier but now that I have, better late than never. Not conforming to others is a good masculine trait and the freedom it gives me outweighs the stigma out there
That’s great to hear. I’m a heterosexual male and have no issues wearing thongs now that I’m in my 50’s. I’m healthier now than when I first started wearing them over 30 years ago. People assume I’m gay because of it and I’m done making any effort to explain I’m straight. I just don’t want to fall into the trap of “I don’t give a f&ck” attitude that seems to dominate daily conversation. It’s my personal choice. I want to feel sexually attractive to the opposite sex. A little odd, so be it.
Great points folks. I been wearing thongs for a long time but until a couple years ago I never wore a thong at a public beach. Now it has become an addiction. I guess I’m making up for 30 years of dreaming about it and now I’m living it. I’m in early 50s and in great shape and because I got fit, it gave me the confidence to wear a thong in public. Plus my niece and friends know and I got a couple laughs or I got, good for you. Either way, wasn’t looking for validation.
I’m straight too and I have had people ask me if I’m gay. I don’t mind explaining myself that I’m straight because that’s not the response they were assuming. Gay/Straight we all have our preferences. I love thongs and wearing them at the beach is like a high in itself. Literally feeling sun on your buns is a drug. I love the string up the butt, I love how the front contours like a bikini or speedo. Plus it takes guts as a man to wear a thong in public. I’m glad to hear and share stories of our experiences. Other thong boards including this one in a way encouraged me to finally wear a thong in public. I love the thrill of being seen now though that was never my intention. I had people indirectly compliment my tan instead of my thong. I’m Greek/Japanese heritage and my skins really turns olive. But let’s face it, a guy at the beach in a thong stands out.
I started wearing “bulge enhancing” boxer briefs, then bikinis, then string bikinis. My preferences kept changing to something smaller. I loved the different materials, the small straps on the side, how flattering the pouch was in the front. For the first time in my life I actually felt sexy. This was a weird feeling to process. I thought women were the only ones that could feel that way.
I felt this draw toward thongs but didn’t think I could give myself permission to buy one. I thought that straight guys just didn’t wear “those.” Fast forward to October of last year, I had bought a string bikini for a trip. We had a cabin in East TN that had an indoor pool at our cabin. It was also my birthday weekend so after the kids were put to bed, my wife and I snuck out to the pool for some alone time. The string bikini was so skimpy that it was pretty much a thong. I kept pulling out the back when it would ride up to keep things “proper.” After about an hour, something in me switched that night. I thought to myself…I actually like the feeling of a thong back there. It was actually comfortable and I felt this eroticism around it. Instead of feeling self-conscious, or weird about it, I was now intrigued.
Fast forward to present day, I have a ridiculous amount of thongs! I absolutely love wearing them. Whether it’s everyday wear, something sexier for a special occasion, or wearing ones to pair with my work clothes, I am hooked. Love the feeling like I’m wearing nothing under my pants, but at the same time having great pouch support. Love the thin straps whether it’s a thong, g-string, v-string, whatever. I have found this forum and another one to be encouraging and I have found so many websites and recommendations from other people. As we speak, I have about 15 thongs in the mail on their way.
It’s turned into a hobby, or maybe even an obsession. I’m glad I gave myself permission to explore this new found interest. Had no idea it would be enjoyable. My wife and I have an AirBnB booked in FL this year with a private pool. Looking forward to rocking some new swimwear in a couple months.
I have always warn speedo style swimwear, in the last few years l have gotten more comfortable wearing skimpier cuts, l now were what’s called a modest thong to aqua aerobics with my wife, the only comments l get are from women saying they like it, now I’m nothing to look at as I’m in my late 50’s. I now really don’t care what people think, just as long as the venue is appropriate for the style of swimwear. I wish l had the courage to do it years ago.
I, too, have always wore swim briefs and only recently (last couple years) got into swim thongs. Mostly for the tan lines though and I love feeling the hot sun on my bum when I’m outside tanning in the summer or on vacation. I also like being different and bending gender norms when possible. But I feel every place is appropriate for thongs, every beach and every pool, and every resort.
Thongs are the absolute best motivation for working out and dieting. I am lucky enough to live in Florida so I can thong at the beach and pools for about 10 months out of the year. I am very body conscious and like to look my best when out in public. So on days when I don’t feel like working out or not eating clean all it takes is to look in the mirror while wearing one of my thongs and I immediately find the motivation to workout or avoid the junk food. Consequently, all of my blood work is good, body fat is less than 11% and if I so so myself I still look pretty darn good at the beach.