This started as something I wrote for myself and then shared with my wife. She encouraged me to post it here.
As a man, I am expected to conform to this image of ‘manliness’ that has been pushed on us from birth. I’ll just say it: I WEAR THONGS! No, I am not gay or bisexual or anything like that. No, I don’t think thongs define me as a person either. For me, it’s no different than my love for woodworking, guns, or engineering. It gives me a reason to improve myself, to be that person I let fade, which brought me down emotionally in life. I haven’t always had a person in my life who was 110% supportive of my thongs. Now that I have that, I wish I could have had it sooner in my life. I will never say I regret the path I walked to this point, because that would mean I wouldn’t have my kids. I just wish I could have had both from the start. Maybe God chose this path for me so I would appreciate it more now that I have it. Thongs give me a reason to be healthy, a reason to feel good about myself, a reason to be happy to be me, a reason to have confidence in myself, a reason to feel unique, a reason to be desirable… nothing in my life does that for me. Being asked if I was gay because of my choice, my desire to wear thongs, by women I have been intimate with, women I have shared my life with, has made me question and bury the thing that makes me feel alive. I have guarded that part of myself and hid it from others in fear that I’ll be ridiculed, attacked, and humiliated for being different. All because I am different from what society has deemed appropriate, deemed ‘manly.’ Now that I have someone who supports that part of me, encourages that part of me, I am sad I wasted years fighting the person that’s been hidden away for so long. But now, I’m finally living my life again. No more hiding.
I like this. I regret not embracing thongs earlier but now that I have, better late than never. Not conforming to others is a good masculine trait and the freedom it gives me outweighs the stigma out there
That’s great to hear. I’m a heterosexual male and have no issues wearing thongs now that I’m in my 50’s. I’m healthier now than when I first started wearing them over 30 years ago. People assume I’m gay because of it and I’m done making any effort to explain I’m straight. I just don’t want to fall into the trap of “I don’t give a f&ck” attitude that seems to dominate daily conversation. It’s my personal choice. I want to feel sexually attractive to the opposite sex. A little odd, so be it.
Great points folks. I been wearing thongs for a long time but until a couple years ago I never wore a thong at a public beach. Now it has become an addiction. I guess I’m making up for 30 years of dreaming about it and now I’m living it. I’m in early 50s and in great shape and because I got fit, it gave me the confidence to wear a thong in public. Plus my niece and friends know and I got a couple laughs or I got, good for you. Either way, wasn’t looking for validation.
I’m straight too and I have had people ask me if I’m gay. I don’t mind explaining myself that I’m straight because that’s not the response they were assuming. Gay/Straight we all have our preferences. I love thongs and wearing them at the beach is like a high in itself. Literally feeling sun on your buns is a drug. I love the string up the butt, I love how the front contours like a bikini or speedo. Plus it takes guts as a man to wear a thong in public. I’m glad to hear and share stories of our experiences. Other thong boards including this one in a way encouraged me to finally wear a thong in public. I love the thrill of being seen now though that was never my intention. I had people indirectly compliment my tan instead of my thong. I’m Greek/Japanese heritage and my skins really turns olive. But let’s face it, a guy at the beach in a thong stands out.
I started wearing “bulge enhancing” boxer briefs, then bikinis, then string bikinis. My preferences kept changing to something smaller. I loved the different materials, the small straps on the side, how flattering the pouch was in the front. For the first time in my life I actually felt sexy. This was a weird feeling to process. I thought women were the only ones that could feel that way.
I felt this draw toward thongs but didn’t think I could give myself permission to buy one. I thought that straight guys just didn’t wear “those.” Fast forward to October of last year, I had bought a string bikini for a trip. We had a cabin in East TN that had an indoor pool at our cabin. It was also my birthday weekend so after the kids were put to bed, my wife and I snuck out to the pool for some alone time. The string bikini was so skimpy that it was pretty much a thong. I kept pulling out the back when it would ride up to keep things “proper.” After about an hour, something in me switched that night. I thought to myself…I actually like the feeling of a thong back there. It was actually comfortable and I felt this eroticism around it. Instead of feeling self-conscious, or weird about it, I was now intrigued.
Fast forward to present day, I have a ridiculous amount of thongs! I absolutely love wearing them. Whether it’s everyday wear, something sexier for a special occasion, or wearing ones to pair with my work clothes, I am hooked. Love the feeling like I’m wearing nothing under my pants, but at the same time having great pouch support. Love the thin straps whether it’s a thong, g-string, v-string, whatever. I have found this forum and another one to be encouraging and I have found so many websites and recommendations from other people. As we speak, I have about 15 thongs in the mail on their way.
It’s turned into a hobby, or maybe even an obsession. I’m glad I gave myself permission to explore this new found interest. Had no idea it would be enjoyable. My wife and I have an AirBnB booked in FL this year with a private pool. Looking forward to rocking some new swimwear in a couple months.
I have always warn speedo style swimwear, in the last few years l have gotten more comfortable wearing skimpier cuts, l now were what’s called a modest thong to aqua aerobics with my wife, the only comments l get are from women saying they like it, now I’m nothing to look at as I’m in my late 50’s. I now really don’t care what people think, just as long as the venue is appropriate for the style of swimwear. I wish l had the courage to do it years ago.