Honestly, this is my pet peeve! I hate when people surreptitiously take photos or videos. Be a big boy or big girl and work up the courage to ask me if you’d like to take a photo or video! I will probably say yes because obviously I’m comfortable in my skin. You aren’t even good at trying to keep it secret! LOL It is totally obvious to me.
Am I wrong? Or does wearing a thong mean being ok with pictures or videos because you are in a public space? Thoughts?
It would be ideal if they politely asked for a photo or video, but the reality is that they can do it regardless of whether you like it or not. That’s the price you pay for being in a public place, and you have to accept it. The only thing you can do is ignore it or pose for the photo with a smile and continue enjoying the day in your thong on the beach.
I know “secret” photos are a fact of life, but that doesn’t mean I have to like it. If I felt that people were snapping my pic because I’m hot and they want to gaze at my picture longingly, I’d feel better about it, but I know it’s meant for ridicule and body shaming. Even though that stinks, I can deal with it as long as it’s for personal use. However, many people want to take it further by then posting it on social media so others can laugh. What they don’t realize is that some of us, myself included, work in career fields where a thong swimsuit post could land us in very hot water or even in the unemployment line. It’s part of why most guys would never wear a thong, the fear of being humiliated and judged, and it keeps most men relegated to the safe confines of board shorts.
I have seen people taking a picture of me and I don’t mind. I also had ladies want to take a picture with me in their thongs. I always wear a hat and sunglasses so I’m not worried about it getting out social media. Besides, it’ usually pictures of the backside. I get it’s more polite to ask but let’s face it, a guy in a thong is still shocking to most people. And most people won’t say anything either. But I know I get the looks when I’m walking. Be confident and try to not let it bother you. I admire that people sneak a pic. You know you’re a topic of conversation later that they say a dude at the beach in a thong and will show a picture.
Its vexed. At a public pool/beach have to expect people will take location shots, some of which are going to be really because they want to put on social media a guy in a thong (largely for ridicule). Been guilty of the odd ‘location shot’ in the past as it’s unusual not to be the only guy in a thong. Only shared on my private thong Insta a/c but even then so the person is not identifiable & with misgivings. I don’t do it anymore. Where I draw the line is the sneaky shots for ridicule. Like you say, ask. Sadly, my experience is it’s mostly young girls (late teens/early 20’s) who are themselves wearing skimpy/thong swimwear or disapproving mature women (40-50s often with a man in tow). What really gets me about this is the hypocrisy. If the tables were reversed, you can bet your life they would claim sexual harassment & possibly report me to the beach guards. Not sure why respect & freedom from harassment only runs one way. Most egregious experience was lying on the beach ass up with another thonger, getting a ‘sense’ there was someone there, and turning over to find a female tourist around 55yrs standing almost on top of us taking close up shots. She scuttled away to her tourist group only mildly embarrassed at being caught. All that said, my view is im not letting this get in the way of my wearing thongs at the beach/pool whether it’s within gender norms or not. To end on a positive note, I have also had positive experiences occasionally from these same cohorts including compliments & a request for a picture together (person was thrilled I was not intimidated by gender norms!) So it’s not always bad!!
It’s rude … people don’t walk up to other people in a restaraunt and take random pics. Why would you feel it socially acceptable to do it on a beach or anywhere else? That’s really all there is to say about it.
It is polite to ask first before taking a photo, but in a public space you would only look silly if you objected. I have a nice body whether from the front or my peachy bubble bottom, and I treat it as a compliment.